We have always had a movement for abstinence.  It's gone by several names ... one most commonly known is "true love waits."  We live in a world that shouts "DON'T WAIT."  "YOU CAN'T WAIT."  "IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO WAIT."  But, is that true?  Is it impossible to wait?  I recently heard a wonderful phrase by Roland Warren, President of CareNet, International.  As Roland was speaking on another subject, he used the term "bigotry of low expectations."  I believe we have fallen into the trap of the bigotry of low expectations.  Many years ago I was speaking with a school teacher in our area.  She explained to me she never wants to hear how her new students acted in the previous years.  She treated them as people who could meet "high expectations."  And do you know what?  Most of the time those students did meet those high expectations.  Because they were treated as people who were important and valued ... as an indiviudals who COULD achieve high goals.  

Is saving sex for marriage a high goal?  I'll shout it loud and clear:  YES!  IT IS!  Sex is a beautiful and natural act that was designed by a perfect Creator to bring us pleasure.  But, He designed it with guidelines.  There are guard rails we must put up.  Why?  Because we want for sex to remain beautiful and natural.  We don't want it to become common and impersonal.  We want to treasure it as precious, special and very personal.  Think about it ... have you ever had a garden you needed to guard from animals?  What did you do?  Many times we put a fence around that garden to protect it.  But, do you put  a fence around the weeds in your yard?  No!  Why?  Because they are common and destructive.  You only protect that which is priceless ... that which is treasured.  It is the same thing with sex.

But, why should I have it as a goal?  Why should I wait?  If everyone else is doing it, why should I be different?  What is so special about sex anyway?  Isn't is just a physical act?  Isn't is just an act to bring us pleasure?  I've heard the argument over and over that "it's the culture we live in."  However, I may live in the culture, but the culture is NOT to live in me.  I do grow weary of how we make our decisions based on the culture when God says:  "And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect."  (Romans 12:2) -- literally translated, that says "Don't let the world squeeze you into its mold...be squeezed into God's Word ...His Word shows you His will.  And His will for sexual purity is clear ... He gave us guard rails.

What are God's guard rails? 

So, spiritually speaking, God's Word says this ... the act of sexual intimacy is between one man and one woman ... who have been united together in marriage.  Everything outside of one man and one woman united in marriage is not sexual purity.  I know that is not a popular statement in the culture we live in .... but again ... I live in the culture ... the culture does not live in me.  

Why would God put up these guard rails?  FOR OUR PROTECTION!!!  In addition to the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), or getting pregnant, sex outside of mrragie leads to emotional distress, distrust, regret, and emptiness. That’s because sex connects two people in body and spirit; it’s impossible to separate the two.  It affects us spiritually, mentally, emotionally, relationally, and socially.

You may be thinking .... but, I'm not a "spiritual" person.  Why should I wait.  We'll look at that more in the weeks to come as we talk about the other aspects of waiting.

So, is it easy to wait?  NO!  But, can I wait?  YES.  And it is so worth it, because sex is beautiful and special when it is done God's way.   What if I haven't waited?  Can I stop now?  YES.  Although we do want to express ourselves in our relationships, keeping it healthy will bring a greater joy later down the road.  And here are just a few tips to help you, whether you are making the decision before moving into a sexual relationship, or you have already had a sexual relationship ... it is never too late to walk in the truth of what God says about sex.

You won't regret the wait.  Remember the old saying?  "Good things come to those who wait."  Well, this is one good thing that is worth the wait.  Here at Life Options Clinic we can help you on this journey to sexual purity.  We would love to sit and talk with you.  Call us at 983-2730.